i've read somewhere that we don't look for love just to be happy. it said that we look for love because we want to be forgiven: for the way we look and act, for all our weird habits and afflictions, for the way we dress, for knowing too much and knowing nothing at all both at the same time, for all that should be hated in us - our selfishness, pride, and insecurities.
that reward alone is enough motivation for me to do just the opposite of what i'm looking for. apparently, being yourself isn't the easiest thing, at least not when everybody's watching. it's funny and sad how every day, we put up this sugar-coated layer of ourselves for the world to see - hey look, i'm looking good, i act according to social norms, i know things and will go the mile to read on what i don't know but which interests the rest of you, i help the needy, go to church, and exude cofidence.
all these crap in hope of meeting someone who'd break your shell and yet still like the nutcase that 's inside.
it's true, i have a sad, sad life.
3 comments:
I wanted to add something to what you have written..We all want to fall in love and be in a relationship, perhaps to try to fill a void.. which is very superficial. We need to address a more important question, the question is: Does that person [you are in love with] inspire you to work harder at your
studies/profession or distract you from them? ... Does he or she inspire you to realize your future
goals and work to achieve them? ... If you are neglecting the things you should be doing, forgetting your purpose in life because of the relationship you are in [or in my case, a relationship that I desperately wished to be in], then you are on the wrong path. A healthy relationship is one in which two people encourage each other to reach their respective goals while sharing each other’s hopes and dreams. A relationship should be a source of
inspiration, invigoration and hope...
Also, real love is not two people clinging to each other; it can only be fostered between two strong people secure in their individuality. A shallow person will have only shallow relationships. If you want to experience real love, it is important to first sincerely develop a strong self-identity..
Sorry for philosophising.. and no u dont have a sad, sad life..
thanks cobainess. i guess when it comes to love, i'm such a slow learner.
i guess it's better to look for someone to love, or rather try to love everyone around you, rather than looking for someone to give it to you.
just a thought :)
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